Building a Spirituality That Feels Like Home

I will be the first to admit that spirituality is a deeply personal experience, shaped by the moments that lead you to exactly where you are now. There will be times when you question if you're in the right place, following the right path, or if it's even the right time. But I have come to learn that only time reveals the truth of the journey.

When I became a mother, I thought I understood my beliefs. I held a degree centered around Christianity, yet it stripped away everything I knew to be beautiful about my culture. It left me feeling empty and disconnected—like I had to deny parts of myself to fit into a practice that never truly embraced me. A practice that had forced my ancestors to erase themselves so their oppressors could capitalize on their land, embedding that erasure into theology itself. I saw it reflected in the people I shared meals with, always feeling close to the table but never quite having a seat. And like many relationships in my life, I pushed and forced myself to claim something that was never truly mine—always chasing a sense of belonging, always trying to get my plate and eat too.

Recently, I had an interaction with someone at a different stage of their journey. In that exchange, I was humbled by how quickly the ego can reveal itself in community. We both said things that hurt. But the reality is, my spirituality, since my healing journey began, has been a slow burn—one I am carefully rebuilding. Not from a place of survival, but from a place of genuine relationship and care.

I don’t know where my relationship with my guides will go. Much of what I once believed was rooted in the need to protect, to fight, to survive. But now, in a life where peace is the foundation, my spirituality looks different. My body is still learning what it means to feel safe. And as I welcome that safety and peace into my daily life, I am learning to be at ease within my own skin.

My hope is that as you connect with yourself, you honor your own capacity. That you explore what safety might feel like. And that one day, you come to a place of such deep peace within yourself that you honor your guides with the path before you. That you hold grace for your humanity and learn to commune with your spirit.